Working the Program: Step 8, Part 3

I make amends to myself when I form new habits that are based on healthy choices.

I make amends to myself when I set appropriate boundaries with all persons in my life, and especially with those who have enabled me to stay stuck in unhealthy behaviors or those I have enabled to continue in unhealthy patterns.

I make amends to myself when I move from self-judgement to self-compassion.

I make amends to myself when I change from self-neglect or self-abuse to self-respect and self-love.

I make amends to myself when I become more conscious of my patterns and more mindful of my motivations, my feelings and my habits.

I make amends to myself when I accept God’s gracious and merciful forgiveness by living as a forgiven person.

I make amends to myself when I move from self-rejection to self-acceptance and self-appreciation.

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            At an event at Rice University in Houston, I heard the Dalai Lama say in response to a question from the audience, “You do not ever allow another person to abuse you in word or action,” he said.  “When you do so, you are participating in that person’s cycle of self-injury and self-hate.”

“When another person abuses you, he hates himself for doing it and he hates you for allowing it.  And when you abuse another person, you hate yourself for doing it and hate the other person for allowing it.”

I have learned that I can enact those cycles of violence on myself.  I have learned that only I can stop them.

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WE ALL HAVE THE POWER TO STOP CYCLES OF VIOLENCE AND HATE.

THINK GLOBALLY

ACT LOCALLY.

BE A PART OF A CULTURE OF MERCY, GRACE AND FORGIVENESS,

STARTING WHERE YOU ARE.

Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other,

Just as in Christ, God forgave you.

Ephesians 4:32

 

What about you?

For what do you need to make amends?

Do you have trouble saying, “I was wrong”, “I am sorry” or “Please forgive me”?

What might change if you could more easily make amends when you need to do so?

What happens when you just can’t make yourself make amends?

(Remember:  When we live in unforgiveness, we leave the door wide open for self-punishment, and sometimes that self-punishment involves repeating the same cycles of mistakes!  Think about it.  Doesn’t it make more sense to accept forgiveness from God and forgive yourself?)

This recovering life really is lived one day at a time and sometimes one breath at a time.

For today, breathe out fear.  Breathe in peace.

Grace to you –

Jeanie

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